Saturday, April 18, 2009
But I never want a puppy. Chance bought an adorable little puppy a few years ago. I say adorable meaning that it was really tiny and cute to look at from a distance. We named her Molly. The kids loved her, but she was a puppy and we had problems. She wasn't house broken, she liked to nip at the kids and she often tackled them in the yard. I knew she was just playing like any puppy would, but all that psychological damage from my childhood would combine with the mother in me to freak out whenever Molly pulled my 2 year old to the ground. Because Tyler adored her, I forced down my feelings of revulsion and accepted Molly into the family. I was resigned to my fate. Then a few weeks later, Noah had an accident. He broke his femur - his thigh bone - and was in the hospital for 2 weeks in traction and then came home in a body cast. I lived at the hospital with him and Chance juggled work, the kids and the house every day. Taking care of Molly was too much for us at that time. So, we sold her to another family that could give her what she needed. I was never so relieved in my life. Even now, I think it was all a bad dream.
It has been 2 years since Molly went to another home. The kids still talk about her all the time. Tyler tells me that he knows he'll see Molly in heaven someday. They all want another one named Molly. Emma continually talks about having a puppy:
"I want a brown puppy. It will have five legs and a dog private. And I'll put a pink chain on it and take it upstairs so it can smell things."
I'm not sure why she was thinking about dog privates. I'm trying not to think about that.
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
"I don't like homework. Math is no fun. Maybe in a couple of years I'll like it more."
"I don't think so, Ty. Sit down, please."
"I can't do this right now! Maybe this summer I'll be able to spend more time working on math. I just don't like it."
"I know homework isn't fun and it isn't what you want to be doing right now, but you need to get it done. Please sit down."
"I'm not going to do it!" (Silence)
"You're just rude to me. You make me do my homework on the first day that I have it! I have a whole week to get it done. But you just turn into a boulder and run right over me. And it hurts my feelings! You're so rude!"
I calmly listened to him rage. My heart surged with pride at his ability to describe so uniquely how it feels to be young and full of limitations, rules, parents and homework. I have felt that crushing feeling as a young person. It feels as though you have no freedom. It may be strange, but I am grateful that he can freely (if not quietly) share his feelings and can do so with such imagery.
So, I listened. And then I smiled. And then he smiled. I told him I would try not to be a boulder anymore. And I thought that the worst was over. And then he said the following:
"Well, I'm not going to do this. I don't have to! I can just throw this homework right into the trash if I want. What do you think about that?"
Spring Break was also full of name-calling. When Emma was busy creating something on the floor, I accidentally stepped backward and ruined her masterpiece.
"Mom! You ... DISHWASHER!"
"Did you just call me a dishwasher? Ouch, Emma."
Noah also told Emma that she was a "Pocket-Head" during one of their squabbles, which caused a surprising amount of tears. Today, Emma called Tyler "Underpants" and I was unable to intervene without laughing. When I mentioned these moments to Chance's Mom, she commented: "I love their profanity." Me, too.
"Love is saying 'I feel differently' instead of 'You're wrong.'"
"If you can't answer a man's arguments, all is not lost; you can still call him vile names."
~ Elbert Hubbard
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Our children are so politically savvy. Here are the latest sound bytes about our president around here:
At the computer:
Noah: "Dad, that's Barack Obama!"
Chance: "Where did you learn that?"
Noah: "On the magazine at 7-11."
"Uh....Barack Obama did this." ~ Emma, after writing on her hands with ink pen.
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
"Spring has returned. The Earth is like a child that knows poems."
~Rainer Maria Rilke, 20th Century German Poet
"Spring is nature's way of saying, "Let's party!"
~Robin Williams, Comedian/Actor
Friday, April 3, 2009
Tyler was baptized last Saturday. We are so proud of him! He was extremely nervous about doing so in front of a crowd of people. Thankfully many family and friends attended, which gave him courage, I think. (Chance was nervous, too.) It was a big moment. Earlier in the month I asked him a series of questions designed to see if your child is, in fact, ready to take this step. He blew me away. I am amazed at how much he understands about the gospel at such a young age. Thank goodness for primary teachers. Here is an excerpt from his journal about it:
"I was bathtized. I was so happy. I got the Holy Ghost, too. A whole bunch of people surrounding me. I was so so so so happy. I got to play with my cousin David at the end. All my friends were there and I was a little nervous at the start ... I was happy when I was done." (Some spelling/grammar corrected)
I have to admit that looking at his journal entry was the first time I realized that Tyler referred to it as "bathtism". I found it thoroughly hilarious that after all these months of discussing his baptism and interviews with the Bishop and primary president, no one picked up on this. I love it.
It is surprisingly stressful to plan and prepare for a child's baptism. I'm glad that I have a few years before the next one.
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